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 August 14, 2024

The Necessary Discomfort of Prioritizing Yourself

Inspired by: Leila Hormozi

Leila Hormozi

In today’s fast-paced world, the need for self-preservation has never been more critical. Often, showing up for oneself requires making decisions that may disappoint others. While this can be uncomfortable, it is a necessary act of self-care and boundary setting, essential for long-term well-being and success.

Research supports the importance of self-care and personal boundaries in maintaining mental health and overall productivity. According to Brown (2018), individuals who consistently prioritize their own needs are more likely to experience lower levels of stress and higher levels of life satisfaction. These outcomes are directly linked to the ability to set boundaries and protect one’s time and energy. The idea that one can always meet others' expectations while simultaneously meeting personal goals is not only unrealistic but also detrimental to one’s mental and emotional health (Brown, 2018).

Moreover, the act of disappointing others in pursuit of personal goals is a byproduct of authenticity. As Williams and Gantt (2020) argue, authenticity in personal and professional life often necessitates making tough decisions that may not always align with the expectations of others. This authenticity is crucial in cultivating self-respect and a clear sense of identity, which are foundational to personal and professional success. The discomfort of disappointing others is, therefore, a sign of growth and a step towards self-actualization.

From a psychological standpoint, consistently putting others' needs before one's own can lead to burnout and resentment. As highlighted by Maslach and Leiter (2016), burnout is often a result of prolonged exposure to stressors, including the pressure to meet external expectations at the expense of personal well-being. By recognizing the importance of self-care, individuals can mitigate these risks and maintain a healthier, more balanced life.

Showing up for yourself—even when it means disappointing others—is not only necessary but also a critical aspect of personal development and mental health. It requires the courage to prioritize your well-being, knowing that this decision will ultimately lead to a more fulfilling and sustainable life. As we continue to navigate complex personal and professional landscapes, this principle remains a cornerstone of true success.

Thank you Leila for your thought-provoking insight.

References

Brown, B. (2018). Dare to lead: Brave work. Tough conversations. Whole hearts. Random House.

Maslach, C., & Leiter, M. P. (2016). Burnout: A brief history and how to keep it from overwhelming you. Harvard Business Review.

Williams, J., & Gantt, E. E. (2020). Authenticity and the necessity of disappointment in the pursuit of self-actualization. Journal of Humanistic Psychology, 60(4), 560-578.